Knowing this man for so many years before we got married built a foundation of friendship for our marriage to springboard from. Hands down, he is my best friend. I never understood the true concept of love or friendship until he was placed in my life. Marry your best friend. Never settle for anything less. This is the person you will spend the rest of your life with; you might as well enjoy it! It blows my mind when I talk to others concerning their significant other (they are in very serious relationships, mind you) and they have no clue what their SO’s favorite color is, what they like to eat, whether they prefer chocolate chip or peanut butter cookies, or how to make them smile when they’re sick. I could not imagine going into marriage without a solid foundation of friendship. First things first, the foundation primary foundation is Christ, but upon that, there needs to be hefty spoonfulls of sweet friendship.
Communication is key to building a friendship – or a relationship of any sort. Two friends that are lacking communication between them will eventually find each other growing apart. The best way to get to know someone is – no, not stalking – talking to them. Good communication takes time and effort. How do you know so much about someone? You communicate. Talk to them. Ask them questions. Fortunately, people do not come with a handbook that gives you every detail about their life, that is called social media. Seriously though, you may learn about that person, but you will never learn who that person really is without communicating with them. We asked a LOT of questions. It was kind of our ‘thing’. If we were not doing anything important, or there were not any other tasks pulling for our attention, we would ask each other questions… and a lot of them. I wanted to know everything there was to know about this guy, and yet there is still so much to learn even still. He is pretty great! We knew so much about each other and had observed each other so much that we would play Q&A games with other couples and get accused of cheating because we scored so high. I took it as a high complement. For those in “dating”, “courting”, “just-friends”, “talking”, “interested” relationships, or beyond, it is ever so important. Familiarity calms, but it also breads compliancy and contempt. Don’t stop learning each other. So, what is your significant other’s favorite flower? Do they prefer pizza or tacos? Chicken or beef? How many states have they visited? What is their love language? What prayer request is most heavy on their heart? Who was their childhood hero? What is their least favorite household chore? Where did their mom grow up? Who are their extended relatives? Who do they trust? If they were a Disney villain, who would they be? What is an inside joke they have with someone that they still use? Go ask them. And keep asking. Ask deep questions. Keep your relationship in questions… to each other. Think you know all the answers? Find new questions. Spark conversations. Don’t quit putting in the effort to get to know them.
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