Sitting in my room is a small box overflowing with colorful envelopes containing hand-written letters. Each were written with one specific person, and purpose, in mind. That person, I have yet to even meet. About two-ish years ago, I read the testimony a young woman had posted to her blog about her journey to marriage. It was a beautifully written story. Throughout her relationships, though she made some mistakes, she was determined to keep herself for her future husband. In so doing, she started writing letters to him. Once a year, on her birthday, she would write a letter to her future husband and then place it into a box. Year after year, letter after letter, she would write. It kept her mind focused on the best instead of the good or the now. Ultimately, she was married, and on her wedding night, she presented her husband with that shoe box of letters and her purity ring. This lady told the story so well on her blog, and I have searched intently for it, but cannot find it. My mom showed me the blog post, and it encouraged me to do the same in my life. I started when I was around 16, and now have over twenty letters. I haven’t stuck to a system, as this woman did, but it works for me. There are numerous other accounts of young ladies (and a few guys) who have done this same thing. It is slightly embarrassing to admit to writing these letters, but also encouraging to know I’m not the only one. I doubt it is anything new to anyone else, but I do want to get married someday. Marriage scares me to death, and it should, and yet it is so amazing to me. I don’t understand why some people just don’t see that it is a wonderful thing. God designed it, and it is so incredibly beautiful if treated as such. However, I can’t stand to see these girls... young, or not so young, idolize these Hollywood guys. Girls, Christian girls, swoon over boy bands, and movie stars. I see the Pinterest account of extremely conservative Pastor’s daughters with board after board of images of these movie stars, and country music singers. In fact, every girl I’ve gone to church with that I can find a facebook page, or pinterest account of, have the same problem. REALLY?! It starts at a young age, and is pressed into us that we need a boyfriend/ girlfriend. Whenever I would visit my grandparents, they would always ask me if I had a boyfriend. It’s shocking to society today to not have one. But let me tell you now, you don’t need one. You can barely take care of yourself, you have no business getting in a relationship with someone else. You’re twelve, thirteen, sixteen..... wait! You’re not getting married yet, are you? Then, no reason to date. Why shop if you’re not going to buy? Dating is like shopping when you don’t have any money. You’re either going to be disapointed, or steal something that’s not yours. Don’t prepare for the future by learning how not to commit. Don’t play the game that nearly all other teenagers play. Impatience always leads to settling, disappointment, and weighty consequences. Waiting, and trusting in the Lord always leads to the best, no regret, gaining more than you could have imagined, and incredible blessings. Don’t allow yourself to become so desperate that you settle for the first one the walks by. I have read a handful of books in this subject, but Before you meet Prince Charming by Sarah Mally, is by far the best I have found. It is a great book. The book itself was written by a young Christian girl. It’s a good read. I highly recommend it. (And I don’t really enjoy reading.) :) Honestly, I can’t see myself having a relationship with anyone right now, or anytime soon - for many reasons. One, I am very afraid.... of a lot of things. For another, I’m not ready for one, I know that for sure. I haven’t found anyone yet. And, I can’t add another distraction from my relationship with Him. Those are just a few reasons. I’m in a relationship with Jesus. I’m falling in love with Him more and more every day! If you feel you HAVE to have a boyfriend, I know Someone Who is crazy over you! He wrote you a love letter! Read it! It’s beautiful!!!! Fall in love with Him! There’s not anything, or anyone, better that that. Wanna see something a picture of my boyfriend. Actually, He’s my future ring bearer. :)
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