This one is hard to compile into one blog post. In my mind, I have written this post a thousand times. When I was little, I would lay in bed with my older sister and we would talk about what we would want in a husband. Typically, I try to place this category of thoughts 'on the back burner' so-to-speak, of my mind. Still, after all these years, I have compiled an extensive list of character traits I would want in a future guy. -Coming back to them required me to take inventory on my own life.... not only should I marry someone who has these traits, but I should have them in my own life. Don't expect something from a future mate that you don't do yourself. Maybe instead of seeking out potential boyfriends/girlfriends, we can put that energy to becoming the future mate they deserve. What I'm Waiting For... As I said, my ideal guy's list is extensive. Detailed. Extremely detailed. Sometimes I wonder if it is too long, but, no. This is something that is put up, and someday, if I think I've met someone, I can match their lives up and see if they're really a possibility.
It's not filled with external guidelines. I have desires I want in a guy... such as one who is cute... obviously - who doesn't? On the other hand, I also have demands. Not mine only, but one's straight from the Bible. I took principals from the Bible, and that is what I want. Basically, I want to look at someone from the view-point of Christ. The top four requirements would be......... 1)He must be a prince; a child of The King. 2)He must be a knight in shining armor; the Lord's armor to be exact. 3)He must be fighting in The King's battles. 4)He must first petition the King. There have been some that have asked me what I want in a guy. Honestly, I try not to think about it..... but, I think every girl does anyway. This would be the abridged list. :) -Be a man of the Lord's choosing, not my own -Be applied daily to Bible reading/study, prayer... -Be kind, thoughtful, and gracious to others -Love God more than he loves me -Be actively involved in, and a faithful member of a good, godly church -Be a servant of God and to others, with the right motive -Be a man of a learning spirit -Honor, respect, listen to, and obey authority -Seek and follow godly counsel -Mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and financially steady -Not just a Christian, but a strong Christian -Produce visible spiritual fruit in his life -Know what He stands for, and why -Practice Biblical masculinity... I don't want a girly wimp -Someone who will face and resolve problems -Someone who constantly seeks God's will and wisdom for his life -Be humble enough to admit when he's wrong and ask forgiveness from the one he has wronged Someday my prince will come Well, what will happen then? What will happen when the Lord brings someone into my life? Really, I don't know. I fear that part, actually. I am afraid some retard in tin foil will come acting as my knight in shining armor who'll know just what to say, and in a momentary lapse of reason, I will get swept off my feet, and regret it for the rest of my life. I want to get to know them, and develop strong friendships before I consider anything more than that. Yet, I fear if I begin to develop a 'just friends' relationship, it will accelerate into something it was never intended. Maybe fear is causing me to ignore situations as such, or maybe it's safe-guarding me. At this point, I can't answer that question. However, it's not one that needs to be answered right now. One thing I do know... yes, I do know something. I have set up a line of defense against my own heart- which I suggest you to do as well. And, before anyone can get close to me, they must go through them. They have my heart. 1: My Daddy (and mom) Before a guy should even get to me, they must first talk to my daddy. That's the first step. Until this is done, forget about it. 2: My Pastor (and his wife) This couple is very involved with my life, and will be throughout any relationship in the possible future. Many people have my heart, and before any guy can get it, they must go through them. I will not consider someone until he has been approved by these people. 3: My Youth Pastor (and his wife) As with my Pastor and Pastor's wife, this is another couple you must consult. I respect this group of people, and have chosen to place myself under them. Maybe this is all weird. Maybe I've got it all wrong. But, I don't want to mess this one opportunity up. I've got just one time to get it right. I don't want to take any chances. I don't want to settle. I don't want to live with regret. I don't want to be disappointed. I don't want to be hurt, left, or used. So, I'm not trusting myself.
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